“You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.”
― Jim Rohn
I’ve been pondering about relationships. Specifically, how behavior and habits transfer from one human being to another. As we all want to belong and be part of a bigger tribe we sometimes choose friends and partners that aren’t 100% for us.
Just think of it:
It doesn’t matter if we talk about friends, family, coworkers. You’ll unconsciously morph to adapt own behavior to that of others. There’s an evolutionary advantage to be part of bigger group: strength and survival lies in numbers. But yet, at what cost?
Perhaps you’ve heard before that couples become and start looking alike overtime. The way you think, the goals you set, the challenges you face, even the food you eat! This principle is so deep rooted, that only a fool would ignore it.
The best bit though is… If you truly want to achieve your goals, then the circle of closest 5 people will automatically update overtime. But yet, if you feel like there’s a disconnect between you and your partner, then the only way to improve it is this:
Lead by example.
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